Has your child ever brought you something that is tangled up in a horrifying knot? So many twists and turns and cross-overs and unders that any direction you try to unwind it just doesn't even make any sense?
I actually have a quite a high level of patience and determination for this type of problem. I think it stems from knowing that just about any knot that was done up that way can also be undone, with the right series of steps. It also helps that I get *immense* gratification out of successfully untying a challenging knot, so it could be said that my perseverance is just a healthy pursuit of victory.
I think this type of problem also gives us a great parallel to peacemaking. Sometimes, we find ourselves in conflict or at odds that just seem impossible to overcome. Maybe it's an argument with a loved one, or a divided issue at work. Maybe you feel the polarization of your community and country and someone mentions peace and you just have to laugh out loud because peace just does not seem to stand up to the situation you find yourself in.
I'd encourage you think of this knot. Frustrating as it may be, there are definite moves we can try that make the situation worse and there are definite steps we can take to make the situation better.
Maybe a final solution to your whole ball of wax is too far-fetched to consider right now. But is there one thing you can do to unwind the string just one degree? Is there a direction you can take the string that releases the pressure and gives you a new perspective with which to tackle this work?
Because the thing is, if you can get going in one direction that starts to help things go right, way will lead on to way, and pretty soon you'll find yourself basking in the glory of an unencumbered victory.
It may require going backwards, sometimes, and trying things that don't work right away. But for every complex conflict that seems impossibly tangled, just remind yourself there is a way trace back through the suffering and release every bind.
How can you help things go right today?
I have two young sons, ages six and four. From pregnancy and beyond, they have been mirroring back to me more than I ever could have dreamed of learning about myself and my own growth. As we grow together through this life, I hope to always mirror back to them the same inspiration, strength, and wonder they have shown me.