One reason entrepreneurs go into business for themselves is because they do not take direction very well from others. I have heard it time and time again from small business owners, their prior employment always came with difficulty with superiors because either they could not be satisfied with mindlessly carrying out a task on someone else's timetable or they felt they could do a better job as a leader.
While it can create some growing pains in the early professional career, this quality is actually a positive marker for entrepreneurs. It's what allows them to see the big picture, think creatively, solve problems efficiently, and bounce back when things get tough.
I have spent the majority of my life rejecting being a writer.
First of all, my mother, father, and older sister were all writers. Deterrent number one.
I wanted to be my own self, an individual, something new and different.
My husband and I recently took our young son to a long, flat stretch of empty parking lot to teach him how to ride his bicycle without training wheels. We knew he was ready, he showed all the signs, he just needed a little space and practice to really get going on his own.
We talked it up as it took a few minutes to remove the training wheels, my son practically doing jumping jacks in excitement. He strapped on his helmet, helped unload his bike from the truck's tailgate, and in one, clear instant, I saw his affect shift.
"I can't do it." he looked at me with pleading eyes. "I won't do it. Put the training wheels back on."
I recognized what he was feeling immediately.
Nothing is worse than sitting across the table from someone who may actually have potential for a position you are trying to fill and yet, you are finding it a struggle to connect or generate any meaningful conversation about whether or not this is a good match for either party. This happens more often than not to small business owners and sadly, it can end up being a major time waster for the employer and the candidate, neither of whom are usually in a position to be wasting time.
In an age and society that is driven by productivity, it's hard not to feel like you are missing the purpose of your life if you are not producing. When we sit, quiet and alone, thoughts of "what should I be doing right now?" often intrude. Sometimes they bring anxiety, sometimes they bring worry, sometimes they bring shame, sometimes they bring motivation (hey, it's not all bad, guys.)
I used to think all of my projects had to be relegated to another dimension when there was sufficient time, resources, and creativity to work from. For instance, the summer, when I (in theory) have more flexibility and less demands.
First of all, it doesn't really work out that way most of the time. Each new season, with it's blossoming potential, brings with it an often unanticipated set of circumstances that quickly become as eerily demanding as what you'd consider your regular, every day life.
When my oldest son was born, the first thing that happened as he entered this realm was he looked up and directly locked eyes with me with what I believe was a profound and unique presence of mind for a baby only one second old. I had never had a child before and I didn't really think newborns were prone to eye contact, let alone truly seeing and connecting with the person they were looking at, but Micah did. I felt his gaze burn into me with recognition from beyond and it was truly a miraculous thing.
He was screaming and crying, mind you, in fact, we may have both been screaming and crying. It was kind of hard to take it all in at the moment.
If you were a carpenter, you wouldn't set up shop in an ice cream parlor. If you were a hair stylist, you wouldn't cut your client's hair in a hospital operating room.
Environment matters, it can either work for or against the work you want to accomplish.
A prepared environment matters even more, no matter the type of work you do.